This is so important
Their son/daughter kills him/herself “I didn’t know he/she was having serious problems”
"Why would you try to kill yourself?" "Why do you do this to us?" "Do you think you are the only one with emotions and problems?" "Why don’t you talk to us??"
Actual statement from my mother when she saw my self-harm scars for the first time: “If you needed more attention, why didn’t you just tell me?”
My parents never just say these types of things, but you can just tell they are thinking it sometimes. Maybe they just say it very subtly.